Tag: analysis

Stop burning people with the magnifying glass

Posted on by philipdodson

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My coach Debbie taught me (well lots of other things too) a few years ago to step away from ‘the package’, to leave situations to be that are outside of my control. The fact is we can only control ourselves and what we do. We can inspire others, but not control.

Yet often we waste energy trying to control others, which has the opposite effect to the one want, as no one likes to feel controlled.

When we step away, often things that seemed unsolvable solve themselves. That’s because we have let go and others are then free to decide without attempts by us to engineer an outcome.

My new favourite thing she has taught me is to take the magnifying glass away from people. Often we have others intensely under a magnifying glass constantly analysing what they are doing, almost ‘burning’ them up.

Like stepping away from ‘the package’, it’s liberating to remove the magnifying glass and accept people and just let things be.

It’s amazing again how great that feels for you and for the person you have been analysing.

Magic happens when we stop trying too hard.

Let life be, stop ‘burning’ people.

One of the biggest obstacles

Posted on by philipdodson

We often analyse and search for what are the obstacles to progress in life. Ironically, thinking and analysing things, is in fact the biggest obstacle.

The more that we think, the more that we analyse, the more we give our inner voice a chance to take over. The strongest part of our inner voice lives in the limbic brain, the chimp brain, this part of the brain is 5 times more powerful than our human, frontal brain.

The chimp in us does not want to be ridiculed, or threatened in anyway, is risk adverse for those reasons and settles for the routine and comfort over starting something new.

As I have blogged more and more, now I rarely struggle with what to write each day, but today I sat and I started to think through ideas, then the chimp brain took over and self doubt crept in. I started to over analyse all the ideas that came into my head, where normally I run with the first idea that comes up, and I just start typing.

This does not mean that we should never analyse or think about things, especially when our emotions have been enagaged, we need time to reflect and that is important.

However, when we have task to start and things to do, just do, count to three and just start, the moment you pause to question, then BAM!!!! we will start to talk ourselves out of it.

Don’t look for obstacles, don’t analyse things that we can not predict anyway, don’t look for certainty, that’s dull. Just start.