When it doesn’t matter

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When we get to the stage when we let go of something mentally. When we think it is finished, there is nothing more to be done, we’ve tried everything, then there is this release of pressure.

What normally follows that is the solution we could not find before, the opportunities we could not see shine bright, the people we need come to us and all of sudden the thing we thought was finished has a green shoot of life.

This is because we have taken away the negativity of self-pressure. We have relieved ourselves of a burden and that gives us a sudden uplift of energy, freedom and choices.

The lesson is, don’t pressure yourself, let go of swimming upstream and allow life to flow.

It’s the pressure that kills opportunity, it clouds our vision, blocks our radar, we are blind to what is around us.

After all, very few things in a lifetime really matter so much, most is self-inflicted anxiety.

When it doesn’t matter, things flow from our relaxed approach, life is no longer such a struggle.

The event that no one came to

Photograph by Stefano Borghi-Cartier
Photograph by Stefano Borghi-Cartier

If you have ever been involved in organising events, then you’ve probably been there, unless you have been super fortunate or you run always the world’s most amazing events.

I perhaps have not and I have had a few ‘no shows’ or events with just a fraction of what I expected as a turnout.

Two things, I have always enjoyed even the smallest events, OK when no one comes it’s a little harder conversation wise.

Most importantly, no one died. The world didn’t end. I learnt and ran another event.

The learning is to make your event as focused as possible on providing something worth people exchanging their time for. It is what will be useful to them, not you.

It is about creating and offering value.

A glass of free orange juice, some crisps and a chance to network has been done. Done to death.

Be bold, be different, and realise that it is not about the number of attendees, it is to make sure the event was valuable enough to get the attendee(s) back to the next one and telling others what a great event it was.

No matter how many come to your event, keep going, but keep making it the best you can.

Patience, perseverance and a value to others from the event are three things to not lose sight of.