Tag: stories

Create stories

Posted on by philipdodson

Today, we have just sat with family and listened to stories, we all have them, and they are the most important part of being a human being.

It is about memories, legacies that we will leave behind, it is the things that we cherish and remember at the end of our journeys.

It is what makes gatherings of people special, it is what makes us laugh, cry, and it is how people feel included, feel that they belong to something, were a part of a collective memory, it helps fill gaps in our own journeys and others.

We all love stories and treasure them.

In order to have these moments, we have to do things that will create the stories of the future for us, our friends and families to recount, to share, to treasure.

Live your life now, live it to create stories.

It’s what it is all about, it is the magic of life.

The cure

Posted on by philipdodson

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Repeating behaviour that causes bad outcomes for you and others is a common thing that humans do.

We hope a ‘sorry’ will make good.

We know that we need to change yet we do it again.

The cure is not to be simply determined to stop. The cure is to find out why we behave in a way that causes bad outcomes. Go deep into it, run with it, lean into it, and don’t run away from it.

The more we go deep into this the better we understand the cause. Remove the ‘rose’ tinted filter that we put on our behaviour. Analyse what triggers it.

Only by discovering the cause can we ever write a different story. The cause is often the ‘truths’ we are telling ourselves. Take down the shields, peel back the layers and get to the root.

It is a painful process that is completely liberating. Facing this is bravery, being vulnerable and being willing to question, to be curious about the narrative of our lives that only we have written.

As always the hard things are what delivers the greatest reward in life.

Writing that different story is the cure, not willpower to stop a behaviour as willpower runs out and repetition inevitable occurs.

The cure is understanding the truth, as until we do understand, we will keep repeating the wrong behaviour. We have to be accountable once we know that the outcome is wrong and hurting ourselves and others.

The greatest thing about life is we can cure anything if we choose to and if we want to. It is never too late to apply the cure.