Accountability isn’t about blame

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All too often we confuse things in life and the word ‘accountability’ is often synonymous with blame and losing your job, especially in the corporate world.

Once someone utters the word ‘accountability’ everyone runs for cover. When we get to ourselves too, the thought of being accountable sends shivers down our spine, we can no longer blame others.

Accountability is not about blaming others or blaming ourselves, it is not about blame in any way.

It is about realising that we are responsible for our outcomes in life.

Realising responsibility removes the opportunity to hide behind excuses, so this, in turn, facilitates learning, learning if applied leads to better outcomes and thus accountability is the catalyst for better outcomes.

From the moment we are born to the moment we die, we are the only common factor in every single thing that goes on in our life that matters. We can not control what others do, or the weather or any other common excuses. We can control what we do and in order to improve how we control ourselves, we have to learn, and learning can only begin once we accept that we were responsible for the outcome. Not to blame, but to be responsible, there is a huge difference.

Blame creates victims and blocks progress. Responsibility creates an understanding that we created the outcome, so therefore, we can learn, improve and create better outcomes.

Don’t look for blame, look for learning and take account of what we do. It is the route to better outcomes and a happier life.

Taking someone else’s seat

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I’m sat here writing this at Charles De Gaulle airport in Paris waiting for my flight to London.

Watching people queueing to board, scurrying by to their gate, sitting patiently in chairs awaiting their departure.

What if we could take someone else’s seat, take their boarding pass and go to their destination and life. Swap our life for someone else’s. After all, many of us compare with others and wish we were like someone else, wish we had their life.

So in another person’s life would you do things differently or would you end up the same you? Would this new opportunity enable you to be free and live without fear, as after all, it’s not your life?

The thing is we can do all the things in our own lives if we choose, the same as others can within their own. No need to swap, no need to compare to others.

We don’t need to look to what others might have, simply look at what we have.

Swapping for others will leave us in the same position, being held back by ourselves. No one has it better or worse, they just make different choices that lead to different results.

Don’t take someone else’s seat as you already have one of your own.