Tag: Philip Dodson

Leopards can change their spots

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I used to believe the myth that you are what you are, accept it and no point in trying to change it as ‘leopards can’t change their spots’.

95% of what we do, feel, think, say etc on a day to day basis is habitual, yet we are born without any habits.

So our environment, people, influences, ourselves and what we tell ourselves in our own heads, shape all these habits.

I know from personal experience, and it is a journey that I have been on over the last 3-4 years, that you can change, even the most ingrained habits.

The key to it is your mindset and really, I mean really, deep down, wanting to change. Accepting you need to change and becoming aware. Then you need to set off on the journey of change one small step at a time.

Realistic small daily steps with plenty of self-encouragement and reward. However, you have to commit, otherwise, the new pathways get over-grown and the old ones remain.

You need to take one habit at a time and look at the one that will make the biggest impact and tackle that one first.

The results are so worth the commitment and time that it takes and that is another key ingredient in change, learning to be patient with yourself. Be kind to you.

So whatever you want to change, but believe that you can’t, unlearn that and believe. Leopards can change their spots, as I have changed mine.

Popularity

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The numbers of RT’s, FB likes or shares matter not.

Popular people do not live more fulfilling lives, they are not more worthy human beings, they are not anything different to anybody else.

It is how we perceive popularity and people we regard as popular, usually measured by quantities of something – money, likes, friends and so on. Its dictionary definition is ‘the state or condition of being liked, admired, or supported by many people’.

It is more about our society and the fact we have created a measure of worthiness by what we achieve, own, the number of friends and so on. We allow other people’s rules to define how we view ourselves.

Comparison to others is a complete waste of time and energy.

Worthiness does not need to be measured or defined, as that is the antithesis of what worthy is. As Brene Brown says ‘we are all already worthy’. We do not need to prove that, every single person is born equal and worthy. If we accept that we are worthy, then popularity is meaningless.

It is our perception of what is important that creates this need to be liked. We are not here for everyone, we have our own uniquesness, our own values and we need to be 100% ourselves.

Do not aim for popularity, aim for being genuinely you.

As the people who will appreciate us without judgement will not care if we are popular or not. Nor should we care how others are percieved.

Just focus on reminding yourself every day that you are already worthy. Be you, be proud of you, be happy and live your own life without comparison to others.