Tag: Philip Dodson

My life is nothing

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My life is nothing among the billions of lives.

My life matters to maybe just a small few among the billions.

Why then do we worry so much what others think?

If we matter to them, they will not reproach us or criticise or judge us. If they do, then perhaps they aren’t the people for our lives.

The rest, who we do not matter to, are of no importance.

When I end my journey what will be hard to overcome is what I didn’t do because of the fear of what others might have thought.

Do what matters, do it for the people who matter and, most importantly, that includes ourselves.

Do it now.

The self-discipline trap

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We can shortcut self-discipline by blocking sites, putting a lock on the fridge, not having chocolate cakes in the house, not buying cigarettes to stop smoking and removing from our lives things we can not seem to stop taking, having, doing and so on.

But it is just that. It’s a trap. We believe that we have overcome a habit or dealt with a demon. We haven’t really overcome something, we have simply ‘handcuffed’ ourselves, blocked it out, but deep down the behaviour is still there.

The hard part is to stop eating cake when the cake is sat right in front of us.

To do that we have to understand why we keep doing something and then to change our habits.

Blocks, locks, and denial are a short-term fix, building a habit without the block based on a desire to want to change, is the only long-term solution.

We will only apply the real self-discipline needed to build the habit that creates lasting change once we are inspired to do so.

Seek the demon, explore why we behave that way, build strategies and then apply new habits to change that behaviour.

It’s easier said than done, but if we want lasting change, there is has to be a trade between easy fixes and commitment.