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What we allow

Posted on by philipdodson

Often we look to others for approval, for permission. It is a way of ‘passing the buck’ and negating making a decision ourselves. It’s all part of the procrastination process coupled with the fear of offending others or not living up to expectations.

The fact is, it is entirely our freedom and what we allow is what we allow. We do not need permission or approval for anything we choose to do. Our choices will have a consequence and an outcome.

But life is all about what we allow to happen in our lives.

Demands

Posted on by philipdodson

Often others demand things from us.

We have this feeling of being obliged to do so, often, we resent it.

We have a feeling of duty.

There is no obligation, there is no duty, we need to choose to do what we feel happy with and not what others demand of us.

Equally, we can choose to practice the same in reverse and not demand or be reliant on others.

To have no expectations of others leads to no disappointment and choosing what we do rather than obligation or duty leads to better relationships with others and greater personal freedom and for the other person too.

This is counter-intuitive to our conditioning of obligation, duty and responding to the demands of others, not wanted no to offend. Yet no one really likes feeling obliged, duty-bound or without choice.

A paradox we all fight with, perhaps time to respect ourselves and exercise our freedom.

Let go of being demanding and look to ourselves and all that we already have.