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The 3 L’s of life

Posted on by philipdodson

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Inspired by a Buddha quote I read yesterday, there is a simple formula that can help us achieve joy and happiness in life.

Love is the number one ‘L’ of life. Instinctively we would love rather than hate, however, all so often in life we are conditioned to react with judgement, anger, hatred and we suppress that instinct. Do not resist the urge to love, to be kind, to be grateful, to be empathetic. Love is the most special feeling in life and yet we resist it or are fearful of it, or we laugh at it and think it is somehow silly.

The 2nd ‘L’ is live, live life to the full, do not hold back on things, do not be held back your views or the views of others, do what makes you happy and go out and live without restrictions. In the process be mindful of being kind and compassionate with yourself and others. As the saying goes ‘live gently’. What you give to you and the world, will be what you get back. Live.

The last one is so important for a peaceful and happy life. Learn to let go. This is possibly the biggest challenge that we all face. It comes from being able to forgive yourself and others. It comes from realising that some things or people are not for us and you have to let go. It is also realising that nearly all things are not a matter of life and death, so let them go. The more we hold onto stuff, the more the frustration, anger and negativity grow.

Don’t push things or people away in life that meant for us, equally don’t hold onto things or people that are not meant to be, just let them go.

Love, live and let go.

Let it go

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Often we hold on to things that are said, or things that are done to us, we hold grudges, or we resent things. We sit and mull over things again and again, playing out scenarios in our heads and imagining what we might have said, and how we are perhaps going to ‘right’ the perceived injustice.

These can be things that we’ve held onto from childhood, from school, all our lives, like carrying around what feels like several back packs, full of hurt and injustices.

We hold onto them in relationships, ready to use as ammo when conflict occurs, or we hold them inside eating away at us.

The thing I have learnt in life is to let them go, to forgive and to move on. There is nothing to be gained in the slightest from holding onto things, they only create negativity, lead to bad feelings and nothing is achieved from holding on.

Forgiveness is a powerful thing, and like any habit, once mastered will make a huge difference to your life. It’s hugely important to be compassionate with ourselves and equally with others too, it makes for a better, happier world, and after all we have no time machines to go back and change it.

It is now and the future that matters, nothing else.