It’s a lonely road

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If it was easy creating great things, we’d all be at it everyday, and then nothing would be created that was worthwhile or unique. Creating something different, unique, and new, takes time, takes effort, bravery and imagination.

It takes patience, through trial and error, through learning lessons and improving what you create next. The key though is to keep creating, keep sharing and keep connecting with others.

This initial phase of standing out, not fitting in, challenging the status quo, and challenging yourself, is the hardest part. It is a lonely place being different, it often means being ‘unfriended’, ‘unfollowed’ or simply ignored (OMG the terror, surely I am going to die).

The first thing that has to drive us to create, is pure and simply for ourselves, for our own sense of fulfilment and purpose. We have to follow our own why, our own values and be 100% ourselves in order to create the very best stuff. We also have to accept vulnerability and we have to learn courage.

Often though that takes us so far out of our safety zones that it is too scary to start. Even once you have started, the temptation is to row back to shore, especially as your peers are beckoning you back to ‘safety’.

As you drift further and further from shore, the journey gets very lonely. You start to question, you start to think about defeat, the chimp inside us is going mad with the stress you are putting him or her under.

The road to creating your very best, truly you, is a lonely road.

But the only way to be truly you, to be truly happy is to make that initial lonely journey to a better place. It starts with a choice to change, followed by being prepared to take that lonely road.

Eventually though you find your tribe, you find your place, and your creations get shared with the right audience that you have chosen.

Make time for different things

Margate Harbour by Philip Dodson age 49 & 1 day
Margate Harbour by Philip Dodson age 49 & 1 day

Following on from yesterday’s post about the simple things in life mattering the most.

It is also important to make time to do different things.

Yesterday afternoon, having walked, eaten lunch, and done all the usual fun things that you do at the seaside as a family, we went back to the airbnb apartment that we were staying at, which overlooked the seafront and harbour in Margate.

We played an art game, where we each took it turns to come up with a thing that we all had to draw, then create a story behind it. Then we had to share the art and the story with the rest of the family.

Not only was this ace fun doing some drawing of challenging things, however, once we’d all relaxed, we all got into the ideas part of it too, and the story behind the drawing. We came up with some really creative stuff, which was different.

We did then played a really fun few card games of ‘cheat’, an old family favourite.

This morning, full of the enjoyment of yesterday, I sat early morning looking out the window and sketched the harbour. Not only has this re-energised my love of doing art, but it was really relaxing and just enjoyable.

For those who know me, I am always joking about colouring in, instead of working, but from now on, I plan to be making more time to do different things, including more colouring in and art.