Accountability isn’t about blame

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All too often we confuse things in life and the word ‘accountability’ is often synonymous with blame and losing your job, especially in the corporate world.

Once someone utters the word ‘accountability’ everyone runs for cover. When we get to ourselves too, the thought of being accountable sends shivers down our spine, we can no longer blame others.

Accountability is not about blaming others or blaming ourselves, it is not about blame in any way.

It is about realising that we are responsible for our outcomes in life.

Realising responsibility removes the opportunity to hide behind excuses, so this, in turn, facilitates learning, learning if applied leads to better outcomes and thus accountability is the catalyst for better outcomes.

From the moment we are born to the moment we die, we are the only common factor in every single thing that goes on in our life that matters. We can not control what others do, or the weather or any other common excuses. We can control what we do and in order to improve how we control ourselves, we have to learn, and learning can only begin once we accept that we were responsible for the outcome. Not to blame, but to be responsible, there is a huge difference.

Blame creates victims and blocks progress. Responsibility creates an understanding that we created the outcome, so therefore, we can learn, improve and create better outcomes.

Don’t look for blame, look for learning and take account of what we do. It is the route to better outcomes and a happier life.

Don’t forget you are human

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In life, when we are bombarded from all directions with advice, tips, recommendations, directives and instruction, it is easy to forget that we are all human. We are not precision engineered machines, that simply are programmed to do every single thing correctly.

In fact, even the best machines, or pieces of software, or automation, break down. Nothing is perfect, thankfully.

However, there is more pressure than ever to be faultless, to not say the wrong thing, to play safe to avoid mistakes.

We can also get drawn into the blame game and look for others to deflect blame onto, in order to protect ourselves.

It is important to recognise that others are only human too.

We will all have off days, we will all feel a little down at times, we will all have our challenges and that’s OK. In fact it is more than OK, it’s normal, we can choose not to allow the pressures or the criticism from others take that away. Equally, we need to be compassionate to others and use empathy, not criticism.

Be kind to yourself and others.