Tag: acceptance

When we are ready

Posted on by philipdodson

The obvious can be staring us in the face, everything can point to the change, we know it deep down, others whose guidance we trust can tell us and yet we stay stuck.

We can only move forward when we are ready to and when we accept what is and let go.

This can be frustrating for the onlooking well-intended advisors, but it is not up to them. Change is an inside job where we need to be willing to let go of the pain, of being a victim, to let go of the reasons not to, to be at peace and relieve the pressure to match the invented self-image in the mind.

When we accept we are worthy no matter what and when we come from a place of acceptance and peace we will have clearer, focused and growth mindset.

We just need to accept then we will be ready to change.

Under pressure

Posted on by philipdodson

We are all under a huge constant pressure to be amazing, perfect, super human, great at everything, constantly doing, earning more, buying more, bigger, better…we need to be a doer, a go-getter…

We are all the same, we are probably good at one or two things, no human can be great at everything. To be good at anything takes time, practice, commitment and pain, it’s not something that you fast track from reading a ‘how to be a winner at everything’ book.

The things we really value are not related to achieving, money or stuff. They are things like people, adventures, having a laugh and so on.

It’s also not about what others are doing and measuring ourselves against them. We need to set our metrics by our own personal values and move thing else.

Once we accept we’re ordinary, like everyone else on the planet then we are no longer under pressure and life is so much better.

No one does well under pressure despite the myth of such fed to us by the machine that keeps us slaves to meaningless deadlines. Keep running round and round the hamster wheel.

From this place of peace and acceptance we can then focus on the things that matter and live a purposeful life getting even better at one or two things we love doing.

Our worth is not determined by a meaningless pursuit of happiness that only comes when we reach this nirvana of being fucking great at everything. We never reach it and who hell wants to?