Tag: thinking

Panic on the streets of…

Posted on by philipdodson

So went the lyrics from The Smiths song. It could be panic on any street anywhere in the world.

We all get moments of panic and it is normal, after all we’re human.

Viktor Frankl once said ‘between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom’.

We choose how we react and when panic sets in, we can either spiral into a pit of despair or we can switch to a different mindset.

It’s about asking ourselves different questions and moving from worry and blame to solution focused questions. Seeing where we can apply our knowledge and learning to find solutions. We then start to regain control.

Gradually the panic subsides and we can start to think calmly and look at how we can bring about the right outcome.

Victim or punisher

Posted on by philipdodson

I’ve been both at times. In fact, everyone of us has dabbled at victimhood and punisher. Actually, many seem to switch between the two.

This behaviour keeps us stuck, stuck with judgemental lens on, not necessarily of just other people but more often of ourselves. It keeps fuelling that victim feeling and need to punish others.

It also keeps us from any self-awareness and stops us being truly accountable for our own behaviour.

The only way to stop this cycle is to accept responsibility for what we do, take off the judgemental lens and replace with a lens where the aim is to learn how we can understand others even better and how we can think differently to lead to a different outcome.

The same thinking and behaviour always gets the same results. If we want to move out the pit of victimhood and stop punishing ourselves and others then we have to focus on learning and accountability.