Tag: Philip Dodson

We just don’t realise

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Sometimes in life we do not realise just how much we have achieved, how much of an amazing journey we have been on.

We often do not stop to see what we have, and I do not mean how big your bank balance is, or the size of the house you live in. I am talking about our families, friends, the places we’ve been, the activities we’ve done, the fun days or nights out, the things that really matter.

Mainly we are stressing about all the things that we do not have, or haven’t done, or could have done better/different…….

It’s what you have that counts, and there is always now to change anything, not in future, as that may not happen. Certainly not in the past, as that is gone.

Now is what matters and what you have.

I was wrong

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Society has developed this attitude to ‘my rights’ and ‘never admit liability’ in an accident. We seem unable to accept we may have been wrong, it is seen as a weakness, it is seen as giving in and not being this ‘strong’ person that we are all meant to be.

Admitting you was wrong means accepting vulnerability, it means that you are self-aware and willing to learn.

It is a strength.

It requires bravery.

It requires accountability.

Blame is a waste of time, including blaming yourself. Perhaps it could be seen more as, not being wrong, but more a willingness to compromise, a willingness to change future outcomes, by learning what didn’t happen as anticipated.

We allow our limbic ‘chimp’ brains to over-power us sometimes, and this is where the black and white, win at all cost mentality suffocates compromise, suffocates accountability and ultimate suffocates learning.

It does not mean that we have to abandon what we believe in, but in order to inspires others, rather than coerce, we need to be able to compromise, empathise and understand where we can be better.

So more than being wrong, it’s being able to compromise, learn and modify going forward.

The endless pursuit of right or wrong, someone to blame, is an excuse to avoid being accountable and developing ourselves.