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A comfort in holding on

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Liberating ourselves from past behaviours is sometimes sabotaged.

We may think that we have decided to change and form new habits.

Sometimes we explain to ourselves that lapses in behaviour are to do with it taking a long time to change a habit. This is certainly true of habits that we have had for a lifetime that we are trying to alter.

However, sometimes there is a subconscious comfort in remaining as we were, particularly if the habit is related to a person or perhaps our childhood.

Once you realise what triggers a particularly habitual behaviour that you are trying to change, get really curious to see if this behaviour has a comfort zone from the past.

Comfort zones are nearly always uncomfortable and safety is riskier than change. Staying stuck with a habit is in the long-term more painful than the change.

As I blogged only recently, hard things end up being easy longer-term and easy is always painful, like holding on for ‘comfort’.

Curiosity may have killed the cat

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The trouble with ‘this is how it’s done’ is it might not have worked or it works for a few but not all.

Often it works only for the people who tell us that’s how the world should be.

So by default, we more often look to see how something has always been done.

It is like a comfort blanket for the same results.

Instead of always looking in the rearview mirror to see what’s been done, we could look forward to see if we can do something different, something new. Then we can rightly expect some different outcomes and continue to test and try again.

That is exactly what took the human race from the plains of Africa to where we are now.

What has happened now is the mass world has made everything average, most people are merely cogs in the machine unlikely to question, as much of the human race are brainwashed into believing ‘this is how it’s done’ is the only way.

Curiosity might have killed the cat but always doing the same will kill the human race.