Tag: outcomes

The result is not what matters

Posted on by philipdodson

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In contests, elections, races, whatever it is in life that ends in a result, a winner or a loser, it is not the result that matters.

The world is not changed by the outcome of one ‘race’ or another.

It is people who make the difference, not just the others, us.

How we react to the result of something is an individual choice.

Sure, if it doesn’t go our way, the natural human reaction is to blame ignorance, the other side’s behaviour and so on. A form of breaking up our crayons.

However, a different opinion does not imply ignorance and in fact, ignorance could easily be reserved for people who can not comprehend or accept that our opinion is not the only one, that’s assuming we need to even level ignorance on anyone.

The effects of the results of races depend on whether you want to sit and moan, or whether you want to take part in the change that you wanted.

After all, if we fell into a pot of doom and gloom and spat insults out every time a result went against us, we would never inspire any difference in the world.

Fear leads us to visualise the very worst after a ‘bad’ result. Yet that is often before anything has actually happened. Predicting the future is at best clutching at straws. Better to try and create the future we want through our actions rather than polishing up our crystal balls.

If you don’t like the result, be part of the change that brings a different result in the next race. However, be prepared if or when you ‘win’, the other ‘team’ might just do the same next time.

In other words, nothing is forever, we can always change something, but not through insults, fear and crying in our tea.

It’s over, rise up strong like the Phoenix from the ashes and build what you wanted.

Most things work out

Posted on by philipdodson

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Most things in life tend to work out. OK so not all of them, as perhaps we imagined or expected them.

That is perhaps where we need to start our thinking.

Instead of fearing the outcome, perhaps we could start by adjusting our expectations.

We have this mindset that makes us look at the gloomiest outcome first, it is a default thing in most of us, encouraged by society and dominated inside our heads by our limbic brain that wants to avoid any potential ridicule or humiliation.

So typically we think something won’t work out and the only way it could work out is perfectly or really well. Otherwise, we won’t start.

Perfection or really well is the wrong expectation of the outcome of doing something.

Perfection is boring and actually impossible to achieve as if you ever reached it, something more perfect could always be found with the mindset of only perfect will do. Even really well is not always possible.

Now that doesn’t mean we should not believe that we can achieve our goals, but it is the goals that we need to assess differently.

It is better to start and do something than to never start. Just ship it anyway, just start and expect something, but don’t expect super awesome, because that’s when most of us believe that it won’t happen and we don’t start.

Like every single thing in life, starting something is a habit and the easier you make it to build a habit, the easier it is to keep doing and thus, the habit will form.

Habits are like a muscle, the more you exercise them, the stronger they get and the more habits you can build.

Believe most things work out and prove it by starting simple easy things and build the habit. Each time we will create better, we will learn how to improve, slowly step-by-step, who knows we might even exceed our previous overstated expectations simply because we started and we improved. Not over thought, feared and never even started.