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Do it for yourself

Posted on by philipdodson

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Often in life people say they did it for so and so, I made this for you, I wrote this for….I created it for….I designed it for x.

The best things created are when we do it for ourselves.

If we do things for others, how do we really know what others want or like?

Once we do things for others, we start to care what others think and when the response isn’t good, then we kill our self-confidence, and often then try too hard to please.

Don’t try to please others, as it opens us up to the worst of the feelings of not being good enough.

Write for yourself, sing for yourself, paint for yourself, do the things that you love the most for yourself.

That way you will create without fear of criticism, fear of judgement of others and then because it is likely then to be the best you can do, then others will find you and your art.

Success is what matters to us. It’s personal.

Other people’s rules

Posted on by philipdodson

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All too often we say ‘by now I should be _______’. This is when we fall into the comparison drama with others and where we perceive them to be versus us. We automatically assume that everything in this other person’s life is much better than our own. We tell ourselves that we have failed, as we have not reached the ‘level’ of others.

Why do we allow others to dictate to us where we should be, or should be doing, with our lives? Why do we feel this need to compare ourselves to others?

Firstly the word is ‘could’ not ‘should’ as there is no preset laid out plan with achievement levels that we need to have reached. ‘Could’ gives us the freedom to choose for ourselves. ‘Should’ is a negative, it implies a duty.

Secondly, it does not matter where we are with our lives. It is up to us to decide what success looks like to us. It is a personal thing, not the business of others, as it is not ours to judge anyone else’s success.

What others think is not important in the slightest. Comparisons are always going to have a negative impact on our mindset and success. We all have our own lives, we are not other people, and what they have or have not achieved is not relevant to us.

All that matters is what our dreams are, and working step by step to achieve them. Do not live by the rules of others, create your own, that’s if you need rules at all, but just be focused on you and what you want to do with your life.

After all what is right or wrong is just an opinion.