It’s not about what others think you should be

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Don’t spend your life trying to perfect yourself for others expectations.

It is about saying this is me. I am worthy already.

We say ‘yes’ to things to fit in. We agree with things, that inside we disagree with so as not to offend others. We act and behave to fit in with an expectation of us set by society, the world, other people and as we struggle to meet these expectations, then disappointment rises and we feel unworthy.

If we live without any boundaries of what is or isn’t acceptable for us, then we allow others to influence how our story is written.

It is about being us, accepting ourselves and believing that we are already good enough and that does not mean we can not be generous towards others, but there have to be boundaries that allow our imperfections to be OK.

It’s about being you not what others expect you to be, after all, it is your life, your story and you need to write it for you.

What others do

Often in life, we wait to see what others do.

This is society thing, it comes from childhood, school, and work. It’s ingrained into us.

‘Watch Mary, see how she does it’.

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It is born out of the industrialised world making us compliant, interchangeable, cogs in their machine. It has a pattern we need to follow so the system makes sure we follow what’s been done before.

Curiosity is removed and failure or deviation from their ‘curriculum’ is shamed.

The best inventions, creations, art, music, writing, new things come from those who follow themselves and do not follow the pattern.

In an oversaturated, bland, average, mass world, it is the rebels who stand out and shape the world, not those who watch what others do.