Tag: leadership

No good blaming the Kardashians

Posted on by philipdodson

Society talks about role models, often referring to politicians, or sports players or actors and so on. Most often we look to celebrities, as a society, many seem to be in awe of them.

The fact is, every single one of us is a role model to someone, maybe many. Society isn’t this nebulous thing, each and every one of us forms it.

If we want to see change, we can choose to be inspiring, we can choose to be accountable for how we behave and we can choose to lead. We can choose to step up and be a role model for the people who matter.

No good blaming the Kardashians or some politician.

Fixing others that aren’t broken

Posted on by philipdodson

Often in life, especially with people who matter to me, I have wanted, with good intention, to help them and to fix them. If I saw them doing something that I had learnt painfully was a mistake then I so wanted to save them from that pain.

What I have now learnt is people are not broken and they didn’t need fixing, it was me who needed to adjust my perspective, as they weren’t me, I was stuck in autobiographical mode, what mattered to me.

Also, I am now learning to focus on me, not that I am broken and need fixing either, but if I work on being a role model, being inspirational, being a leader, being true to myself, then perhaps if someone does want to change something and then they may see something that I do or have done that might help inspire them.

The whole thing is ratcheted up to a much higher level of desire to fix and help when it is your own children, but here it is even more essential that I am a good role model rather than a fixer of things that are not broken.

Of course, like everything, it is a work in progress for me and learning to let things be is hard, but so worth it.