Tag: honesty

Offending someone is the least of it.

Posted on by philipdodson

Often in life, we avoid telling others something as we fear offending them or we feel awkward about being honest to someone.

I’m not advocating brutal honesty, that is just rude, shaming and not appropriate in a case.

However, just as brutal is leaving a person guessing or engineering a way to ‘take them out’ of the picture, without being decent enough to tell them why.

The options, don’t tell people and leave them guessing, be brutally honest and upset/shame them or learn how to give feedback and deal with situations that avoid offence, that is constructive and bring about a good outcome for all parties.

We are taught not offend yet that leaves the other person feeling rejected and uncertain as to why something happened.

This is worse than offending them as they have no closure, no say, nothing but the silence of avoiding offence.

Hiding

Posted on by philipdodson

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Hiding away from a challenge, a protest, an issue, a person or whatever it maybe doesn’t make it disappear.

A step further, is even to censor whatever others see, hoping that they won’t see the protest, challenge or issue.

The problem for the people doing the censoring is that people do find out and then they start to question why you were trying to hide something from them.

Those who have nothing to fear or hide, will be completely open.

Beware those who do.

Today’s picture is of a demonstration in London, attended by 150,000 people, against the current government’s austerity, that has hit many less fortunate. Meanwhile, many in the government have been exposed for hiding their money offshore to avoid paying tax. You may not have seen the demonstration in mainstream media.

It’s not about what ‘flavour’ the current government are, it is about doing the right humane thing and paying into the community for all.

It’s also about being honest.