The fantasy in our heads

The future is something that never actually happens, it doesn’t exist and is a fantasy acted out in our own individual heads. Each person’s mind conjuring a uniquely imagined and different future.

I wrote before, our lives are made up of a series of ‘now’ moments. Today, is the past tomorrow and tomorrow never happens. Now is life and it is the only life we have.

When we fantasise about the future and allow it to dominate our noisy minds then we will be consumed by fear, anxiety, worry, uncertainty and we will mainly be envisioning problems that haven’t occurred and all the mental and physical affects that will have on us.

Right now is the only thing that counts, it is our life and once we choose to live the life we have now we will only have to deal with the problems that are actually real and occurring right now. Not the fantasy that we imagine, as they never occur.

Amazingly if we only have to deal with problems as they appear, then we have not worried about and imagined a whole plethora of miserable outcomes and we haven’t judged. We simply use our intelligence to deal with the ‘now’ challenge as it occurs.

We let go of fear, worry and anxiety.

This is very liberating.

The biggest regret

Doing something that really counts involves hard work, patience, the willingness to learn, focus and sticking to the plan no matter what others think. It takes pain and a willingness to sacrifice short-term gratification and ignoring quick fixes. There is little choice in this if we want our work to stand out and make a difference with what we do.

What that work is though is entirely our choice and there is no wrong choice here. What matters to us is personal and what others think is irrelevant.

The biggest regret we will have in life at the end of our journeys is that we didn’t choose to do something that matters and we didn’t make the sacrifices to achieve this and settle for the quick fix. There it is too late, we won’t be able to turn back the clocks.

What we do today will build the future and the legacy we want and will help us avoid big regrets.