Tag: choices

What might have been

Posted on by philipdodson

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Life is full of them, what might have been.

We have all sat and looked at choices we’ve made in life and thought what if I had chosen the other option, the other path, to say something different, to not leave that job or person.

We can often allow this to weigh us down with regret. It can then affect our future decision taking as we fear repeating bad choices.

Well, no one knows in advance that they are making a bad choice, otherwise, we’d be unlikely to do it. Additionally, there are no bad choices.

We focus on what might have been, as in something we don’t have. We could instead focus on what we do have. The grass is rarely greener, it is just a different shade and we can not have every outcome. The colour of the grass is how we choose to look at it and we can see it however we choose to.

So be positive about the choice you did make and if it turns out not to be the outcome you wanted, then choose a different path, learn and move forward. There is no gain in regretting choices as time machines have yet to be invented.

If we could go back, we would make the same choice as we wouldn’t know the outcome of that choice. We can only make choices on our experiences to that point in life and the current mindset that we had when we choose.

So perhaps it is better to say with a spring in our steps ‘look what has happened’ instead of what might have been. Even if it is a bad outcome, nothing is forever, change it and move on. It is all part of a magical journey and if we could make choices without risk and with total certainty, then life would be dull.

Swimming against the tide

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Swimming against the tide is tiring unless you’re a salmon aiming to swim upstream to spawn, and I am guessing, seeing as salmon are not prolific readers of my blog, that you’re not.

In life, we expend so much energy resisting things that we deep down know are the right solutions or the right choices.

All we need to do is let go, let go of inhibition, let go of fear, let go of worry and follow our instincts.

Go with the flow, because until some obstacle comes along, we can float happily through life. When the obstacle comes we’ll have to deal with it, but all obstacles can be overcome. If it can’t, then choose a different stream to flow down.

Swim with the tide, it’s so much more enjoyable, is less tiring and who knows what will come along, that’s the exciting thing about life, the unexpected, the magical, the unknown.