Tag: changes

Observing

Posted on by philipdodson

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Someone has been trying to convince me about Tony Robbins.

I’ve never really looked at any of his stuff, yet I have been put off finding out more because I see him as a motivator rather than someone who inspires.

So when the guru isn’t there, when you are not plugged into the ‘electricity’ and the source of motivation has gone, you are left with nothing.

Whereas when something touches our heart and truly inspires us as it reaches our values, we can continue to inspire ourselves as it much deeper and more meaningful than a lot of shouting, loud music and ‘fuck yeah, 110%’.

So curious to find out more, I started to watch the Netflix documentary about him and I stopped observing and started to judge.

However, herein lies the dilemma for me and most of us, and this quote by Jiddu Krishnamurti sums it up perfectly “The ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence”.

It’s all learned behaviour of judging people before or during observing them.

Observe without judgement, reflect and still don’t judge. Evaluate for yourself with an open mind. This way you unlock a very different world that previously you couldn’t see.

I still may choose to see Tony Robbins the same way but at least I can do it without judgement. It’s a question of unlearning and changing habits.

Kindness when you fall off the wagon

Posted on by philipdodson

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Making changes in your life is more about kindness and compassion to yourself on the days that you fall off the wagon, than it is on the days you stay on.

The tendency is to beat ourselves up for the one day we fail at sticking to a new habit, we focus on that failure rather than the other days that we successfully carried on down the path of bravery to make a change.

Many people fear taking those first steps towards change let alone sticking at it, so when there is that odd slip, pat yourself on the back and remember that change is all about a series of small regular steps. It is not about perfection, it is about commitment.

Commitment can only come if you are kind to yourself, as reproaching yourself brings in seeds of doubt and fear of failure.