Controlling ourselves

Controlling ourselves is hard.

It means overcoming demons, it means creating new pathways in the brain, new habits, it means being intentional about change.

It requires us to resist the now, resist the instant gratification fix, it means having patience with ourselves. Giving ourselves enough space, time, kindness and compassion to be able to build the new habit.

There is no shortcut, it just takes the small steps, day after day and being kind to ourselves when we react without control.

We could imagine a big stop button in our heads and each time we feel the short term reaction come then press the imaginary button.

Maybe over time, this will help us have more control in our life.

It’s a journey worth taking as being in control of the only thing we can actually control has a massive impact on our joy, happiness and well-being for the long term.

It also has a massive impact for those who matter in your life too.

Reprogramme the brain by what we think about

We were told until more recently, that by the time we were adults, that’s it, the brain is set in cement and we can’t change.

‘Leopards can’t change their spots’. Really?

Convenient for the system, as it avoids too much curiosity.

The fact is you can reprogramme the brain and you can change almost everything. It is question of choice. 

We can retrain the brain by what we think, imagining positive futures where we achieve our goals and dreams stops the brain from blocking progress, which happens when we are more pessimistic about likely outcomes.

What’s the plan for this one life you have? We get this one shot at it? What will you programme your brain to do?