Tag: beliefs

Leopards can change their spots

Posted on by philipdodson

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I used to believe the myth that you are what you are, accept it and no point in trying to change it as ‘leopards can’t change their spots’.

95% of what we do, feel, think, say etc on a day to day basis is habitual, yet we are born without any habits.

So our environment, people, influences, ourselves and what we tell ourselves in our own heads, shape all these habits.

I know from personal experience, and it is a journey that I have been on over the last 3-4 years, that you can change, even the most ingrained habits.

The key to it is your mindset and really, I mean really, deep down, wanting to change. Accepting you need to change and becoming aware. Then you need to set off on the journey of change one small step at a time.

Realistic small daily steps with plenty of self-encouragement and reward. However, you have to commit, otherwise, the new pathways get over-grown and the old ones remain.

You need to take one habit at a time and look at the one that will make the biggest impact and tackle that one first.

The results are so worth the commitment and time that it takes and that is another key ingredient in change, learning to be patient with yourself. Be kind to you.

So whatever you want to change, but believe that you can’t, unlearn that and believe. Leopards can change their spots, as I have changed mine.

We think our own future

Posted on by philipdodson

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The thoughts that we have in our heads are what determines our beliefs, actions and the outcome of those actions.

If think good things about ourselves or are thinking positively about an action, then we believe good things, that then are more likely to result in good actions and good outcomes.

Of course, there are external factors that we do not control, but they are always there and we can’t change what others may or may not do.

The reality is, we decide what future we will have, by the thoughts that we have. We are taught to fear and worry, think of the worst outcome by default.

What if you reversed that and unlearnt? What if we learnt the habit of thinking about the best outcome first? What if we choose to believe that we can create that best outcome? Think about it, we can think whatever we want, yet we choose to think bad things first?

It is all habit, and habits can be changed by doing the different behaviour regularly enough for the new habit to form.

So what future are you currently thinking up for you? How could you change that thinking to create the future you really want? Just start now, by changing your thinking and beliefs. Think good first, bad might happen, but until it does, no point in thinking about it. Normally, for almost any situation, we deal with bad when it comes up anyway.

Think up whatever future you want.