It’s funny, the unconscious mind controls us to punish others for the perceived harm done by them to our self-image, to our ego, to the mind-created self. They only can harm us if we choose to, if we stay conscious we realise it does not matter.
The insane thing is, it all happens in our mind, and often the minds of others when they react to our punishing behaviour, and none of it happens or exists in the real conscious world.
Weirdly, punishing others or being a victim, or both, are things that inflict pain and suffering on the perpetrator, not the person they attempt to punish.
That is the madness of the mind and its unconscious behaviour. Peace is freely available to all who choose in the conscious moment.