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Don’t over engineer

Posted on by philipdodson

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All too often in life we try too hard to make something happen.

Our desire to make something happen is very strong at times, even though the only thing we can control is ourselves. Yet, we many times get hell bent on engineering an outcome.

Most humans resent or rebel when their freedoms are compromised by others, and the more that is forced, the more we tend to rebel and the less likely the outcome, that the controller wants to make happen, happens.

We all would recognise this when we are on the receiving end, yet when we have that strong urge to get something to happen how we want, we then seem to forget all about that, and end up going head first into forcing something.

Don’t over engineer outcomes, in fact try hard not to engineer anything with a overly selfish motive behind it, as the best things in life happen naturally, unforced and out of serendipitous moments.

The more you relax and stop swimming against the tide, the more you are just yourself, the less you deliberately seek something.

Then we send out the right signals, and allow others to make their own minds up. It is better that the other person choices the outcome we want, because it is something that they are inspired by, not something we have manipulated or motivated them to choose.

This all comes down to the audiences we choose too, if you are surrounded by the right people, who like you and your values, then the are more likely to be inspired to choose what you stand for, and the less you will need to over engineer.

Lazy Sunday’s

Posted on by philipdodson

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One of the best things in life are lazy Sunday’s.

I’ve just being lying on the sofa, with two of my pets sleeping on me, the family snuggled up and we’re all watching Jurassic World. Naturally I fell asleep too, I watched it when it came out in the cinema, and apart from the standard munching of people by giant lizards with big sharp teeth, there wasn’t much else to be honest, so second time around it was, well zzzzZZZ.

We’ve really not done much today, I’ve played a bit of PS4, my son’s been playing Fifa on his xbox, my daughter has been making the house shake listening to tunes on YouTube, the wife has been watching some Swedish murder mystery on Netflix.

The thing is, we all need days like this, sure you can’t have too many of them, as then nothing would get done. But it is important to have a bit of a laze now and then.

Often though, we are made to feel guilty, as ‘they’ tell us we should be always active, doing something chasing our goals, etc, etc, etc.

Well for one day every so often goals can wait.

That’s it until tomorrow, as the duvet and the sofa are calling.