Tag: relationships

Demands

Posted on by philipdodson

Often others demand things from us.

We have this feeling of being obliged to do so, often, we resent it.

We have a feeling of duty.

There is no obligation, there is no duty, we need to choose to do what we feel happy with and not what others demand of us.

Equally, we can choose to practice the same in reverse and not demand or be reliant on others.

To have no expectations of others leads to no disappointment and choosing what we do rather than obligation or duty leads to better relationships with others and greater personal freedom and for the other person too.

This is counter-intuitive to our conditioning of obligation, duty and responding to the demands of others, not wanted no to offend. Yet no one really likes feeling obliged, duty-bound or without choice.

A paradox we all fight with, perhaps time to respect ourselves and exercise our freedom.

Let go of being demanding and look to ourselves and all that we already have.

True love and decisions

Posted on by philipdodson

True love is unconditional.

When we come to making decisions, if we choose to look down a lens that is based on love, then we are very unlikely to go too far wrong.

Sure there is a time to make decisions based on rational logic, but those aren’t the important decisions in life.

Making decisions out of love is based on relationships with the people and if we focus on what makes them special to us, then it is easy to be unconditional.

Then it is easier to make a decision about our interactions and reactions.

It’s a challenge as we are conditioned very differently, we are taught to judge, to criticise, to look for fault, for blame.

Let’s choose to look for love.