Accountability isn’t about blame

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All too often we confuse things in life and the word ‘accountability’ is often synonymous with blame and losing your job, especially in the corporate world.

Once someone utters the word ‘accountability’ everyone runs for cover. When we get to ourselves too, the thought of being accountable sends shivers down our spine, we can no longer blame others.

Accountability is not about blaming others or blaming ourselves, it is not about blame in any way.

It is about realising that we are responsible for our outcomes in life.

Realising responsibility removes the opportunity to hide behind excuses, so this, in turn, facilitates learning, learning if applied leads to better outcomes and thus accountability is the catalyst for better outcomes.

From the moment we are born to the moment we die, we are the only common factor in every single thing that goes on in our life that matters. We can not control what others do, or the weather or any other common excuses. We can control what we do and in order to improve how we control ourselves, we have to learn, and learning can only begin once we accept that we were responsible for the outcome. Not to blame, but to be responsible, there is a huge difference.

Blame creates victims and blocks progress. Responsibility creates an understanding that we created the outcome, so therefore, we can learn, improve and create better outcomes.

Don’t look for blame, look for learning and take account of what we do. It is the route to better outcomes and a happier life.

The game is loaded in our favour

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Life is a game. Not like Monopoly, Risk, or Chess.

In those games the rules have already been written by the game maker and once other players join the game they are there until the end. There is a winner and there are losers.

In life, though the game is much more stacked in our favour than we realise or in fact choose to admit. There is only one winner, us.

Our life is our game and not only do we decide the rules, as it is our life, we can also choose the other players and how long they are in our game. Now initially some players join in without our permission, but then it is our choice whether they stay in our game or not.

We write the rules in our game. We are the game makers.

We can not control what the other players do but we control whether or not they stay in our game.

So when we moan about a bad hand in cards or landing on the wrong property in Monopoly and so on, well sometimes that is our lot and we have to play with it, but in the game that is our life, if we don’t like the cards dealt or the space we landed on, we can throw them away and get some more dealt, we can move to another space whenever we like.

The point is it is our game, our rules and we choose the players.

Therefore there is no good or bad luck, just a series of choices that we and we alone are accountable for.

Get on and play the game, it’s completely loaded in your favour.