The fire of gratification

The fire of gratification once lit is always hungry for more things to burn.

It’s a fire of addictions, not just drugs, alcohol, food, downloads, social media, but many more. There are many addictions in our world, all giving that instant hit of gratification. It is a short-term burn, a short-lived buzz, shallow and unfulfilling.

We will look back on our current times and reflect that the progress we thought ‘instant everything’ was, was not in fact progress, it was a regression. Having everything just a click away has removed the joy that slowly building something of meaning brings to us.

Deep versus shallow.

We need a to put out the fire of gratification and search for a slower burn, one that brings joy longer term.

Waiting on others

We can wait for others to care.

We can wait for others to call.

We can wait for others to message.

We can wait for others to do it for us.

We can wait for others to bring us joy.

We can wait for others to fix it.

We can wait for permission.

We can wait for others to notice us.

Waiting is painful for us and the others that we have chosen to become dependent on.

Or we can get on and do things that others will want to care about, will notice, and the same time build our own happiness, joy, fulfilment and give ourselves permission to live a care and guilt-free life that is focused on our own joy, happiness and dreams.

It’s easier short-term to wait and be dependent, but the longer you wait the greater the pain.