Tag: help

Broken

Posted on by philipdodson

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We are not here to fix.

People aren’t broken including ourselves.

They are different, they might be having a difficult period, a rough day, had some bad news, who knows?

They have something that they want to share.

Resist the temptation to fix.

Instead, listen, support, empathise and show love. Apply the same to ourselves, resist the beat up and fix approach, just be compassionate, we are not broken.

That does not mean you can not offer advice or give help. But listen first, as the person may not need help, they just want someone to listen, to share something with, to say something kind.

We are all worthy, we do not need fixing, we are just right in our imperfect condition.

Rowing our own boat

Posted on by philipdodson

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Life is a journey that we are not meant to do alone.

Sure we all like our freedoms and independence. We do not like being told what to do, we like to make our own decisions.

However, we are much more successful if we collaborate and work with others.

In order to do that, we have to learn to accept help from others and this is where most of us struggle, as we are taught to see asking for help as a weakness, instead of a strength.

In order to be good at helping others, we need to learn to accept help too.

Being tough is, in fact, the opposite and letting our shields down and being open to receiving help is being brave.

Rowing your own boat is hard work, lonely and it will take you a lot longer to reach your destination.