Get closer

Hating someone based on the mass media and what the voice of the establishment says is easy. You don’t know those people and therefore it is not personal. It is easy to get sucked into the dehumanising of vast numbers of faceless people and to join in.

The politicians and media have created a hate-fueled polarised society where we have to choose sides, good vs evil etc, where everything has been oversimplified and we are only present an either/or. Life is full of many shades and many different options and views than just two.

If we get closer to people and get to know them, it is more often difficult to hate them as they become the real people who are perhaps work colleagues, neighbours and so on.

Perhaps if we only ever made our evaluations based on our own individual personal life experiences the world be less hateful and vastly better.

Hate is sold easily when it’s not personal or even real.

Real people matter and the closer we get to all of our fellow humans regardless of who they are, the closer we get to solving our differences and seeing things differently.



Today’s blog is inspired by the fab new book by Brene Brown ‘Braving the wilderness’. If you have not yet seen or read her work, she is a life-changing professor and author.

Sometimes it has to be uncomfortable

Sometimes as humans we need to discuss awkward and uncomfortable things.

We can choose to head to Netflix or pretend they are not there, but that is ducking out of our responsibility to our fellow humans and is letting ourselves down too.

We all form the world that we live in and that means that each and every one of us needs to be part of the dialogue.

There is a great Facebook Live with Brene Brown, whose work I am a great fan of, and she is discussing the very touchy subject of race and it is well worth a 20-minute watch – click here. This clearly demonstrates the point and she puts it with greater depth and eloquence.

We need to discuss, not hate or criticise, difficult topics, as that is the only way to move forward as a human race. We’ve tried the authoritarian and hate approach and it has been a miserable failure so far.

Next time there is a challenging and uncomfortable thing to discuss, we need to step up and get involved, why wouldn’t you?