Don’t worry about achievements

Happiness and joy in life are not made up of what we achieve in terms of qualifications, salaries, houses, sales, followers…it is made up of memories that we create in our heads, and the heads of others, of moments, activities and experiences we do with people who matter.

Moments that we can recount or recount together with others that makes us feel warm, happy and that we keep with us and cherish for a lifetime.

Never worry about whether or not you achieved enough tasks, duties, things in your life, it is less important.

We can choose to concern ourselves with creating the memories, that will become our legacy when we are gone, with the people who truly matter in our lives.

Wake up each day full of joy and gratitude for the journey we’ve had, for the treasure chest of memories already there. Grateful for all that we have, our partners, families, friends.

Everything that happens from the moment we wake up every day can be viewed as a bonus, an unexpected gift to be hugely thankful for.

We can then choose each day to do something small but special for ourselves or others that we love and care about, or even for a stranger. The small things matter and make us feel good about ourselves and help others to feel good too.

From nothing, comes everything.

‘From nothing, comes everything’ wrote one of my favourite people, James Altucher, today in his daily email.

He’s so 100% right, and conversely, from having everything comes nothing.

When we have everything, we are not satisfied, or happy, or content.

We could choose to be, but we are not, it is a lifetime of conditioning to always want something we do not have, always want more, even though we have all that we will need and much more than we will ever need to be fulfilled.

When we have nothing, when there is no food, nowhere to live, we’ve lost everything, then even the smallest improvement in that situation feels like you’ve won the lottery.

If we focused on the process, the journey instead of the outcome, instead of the rewards, then we would relax and learn to enjoy each step of the way, learn to appreciate so much more, and stop sweating about what we do not have.

Some of the happiest, joy-filled and most truly generous people I have met in my life are the ones with the least. When you have nothing, when you do not constantly desire what you do not have, when you accept and are grateful for what you have, then everything that truly matters comes to us.

Life is not about accumulating material wealth, it is about leaving a legacy and accumulating memories for moments we spend with the people that matter, achieving our purpose and making a difference.