Listen to you

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The best person to advise ourselves is, in fact, ourselves.

We have been present at every single second of our lives.

We have felt every single moment of joy, love, happiness, disappointment, shame, pain and so on.

From that, there are always lessons.

Yet somehow at times, we override our own instincts and we allow either ourselves or others to influence us to go against our feelings. That leads to the repeating pattern and the same results and inevitable frustration.

In order to listen to ourselves, we need to get curious as to why we are overriding what we know to be the right answer for us. Until we discover that we will continue to frustrate ourselves by not listening to ourselves and lessons will be impossible to learn.

We have all the right answers most of the time, it’s just learning how to listen and apply them.

Stealing freedom

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Those who try to control others are often frustrated by the inability to focus on their own challenges in life. They feel the solution to their woes is to see others as the person to blame and change.

Trying to control others is only going to lead to stealing someone else’s freedom of choice. Imposing your will on others is denying you the chance to live your life, to focus on what you have and what is important to you, and it restricts the freedom of others.

Happiness comes when you allow others to be free and you free yourself from the burden that is manipulation.

Inspire yourself by focusing on your freedom, focusing on what matters to you and by stepping away from issues that are outside our control.

Live without the stress and the effort of the futility of trying to engineer things that we can not. Short-term we can manipulate and coerce others, but longer term it is our own happiness that builds the right life for us and attracts the right people who want to be part of our journey because they have chosen to.

Freedom of choice is the most precious gift of life, keep yours safe and don’t steal others.

Allowing others to control us is one of the biggest injustice you can do to yourself. Love yourself, be kind to yourself, choose your own happiness first and step away from anyone who can’t respect that and who tries to stop that.