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Two kinds of credibility

Posted on by philipdodson

There are two kinds of credibility.

If we say out loud to the world that we are going to do something and then we don’t, then that’s kind of OK once or twice, but do it regularly and we start to become less credible as time goes on. To the point that we are no longer trusted to deliver.

There is a second kind of credibility that is much more damaging and that is the credibility that we have inside our heads. So whether we announce it to the world or we say it inside our own heads, the damage is just as bad if we continue not to do the things, we tell ourselves or others, that we are going to do.

Repairing our credibility with others has to come from repairing our own inner self-belief and that is a hard task.

Showing up is not always easy, there are many factors involved and the lesson perhaps is to volunteer for less and make sure that the one thing we do say we’re going to do, we do. Furthermore, perhaps best to say nothing at all and just get it done. After all, we can then say we have done it instead of I am going to do it.

The underlying problem is our society measures our worth or value by what we achieve/do and therefore there is far too much pressure to be constantly doing things in order to fit in and to be a worthy person. Hence we often over promise or over volunteer.

Credibility starts within us.

Show up

Posted on by philipdodson

If you ever feel like life is dealing you a bad hand or you’re not getting what you deserve, then stop and think, do I show up in my life? Or am I expecting others to show up and deliver things for me?

Do you perhaps tell yourself it is bad luck, or others are better?

If, hand on heart, you can answer ‘yes, I always show up’ then you won’t be feeling unlucky, or like you are being dealt a bum hand and life will be going well.

Showing up is the only way to create what you really want in life. That means matching your action with your thoughts or words. Staying true to your values wherever possible is a key component in showing up.

Stand up and put your hand ‘in the fire’, not in some macho way, but be true to yourself, deliver what you say inside your head and keep going, keep showing up no matter how hard it is.

A major part of success is about commitment and no letting yourself down, it is about being there when it is hard, when you don’t feel like it, and staying brave. It is about repetition and doing daily steps to keep your momentum going.

Showing up has a huge reward, like any habit, the more you do it, the easier it becomes, the results engender more confidence and there’s a massive feel good factor that encourages more action.

So when we feel like not going, not doing, not taking action, remember that if you don’t show up in your life, then you end your momentum, you destroy your credibility with others and more importantly with yourself.

It is always harder to start something than it is to keep it going. The longer you keep it going the more the habit becomes ingrained and will become routine and easy.

Show up for yourself, we owe it to ourselves.