If we start from a place of acceptance and no resistance to what is, then anything is possible, there are no barriers to what may occur and the exterior world will reflect our inner peace.
If we fight against the reality of the situation and how things are, then life is always a struggle. We are always looking for someone or something to blame or both and have them as an enemy. The thing is, all of this only exists in our mind. It is what we create no one else.
Surrendering does not mean you outwardly agree to everything, it means inner acceptance and inner peace, so when we respond, and we do not even always need to respond, we do so from a place of calm, our view is no attached to an egoic state, we are not defending a position and the universe works with us, there is only positivity. When we come from the position of the mind, the ego, a fight, a position to defend then everything works against us, negativity rises, others reflect our state.
There is nothing to defend when we are not attached to our egos and are at peace inside.
It is all a choice we can make.