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Sometimes things turn out different

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Philip Dodson blog

Before we start something, we have an expectation of how things will turn out.

We imagine in our mind what the outcome will be, we then think about how our life will be once that outcome has been achieved.

Often, though when you commence something, it turns out quite different to how we anticipated the outcome. Sometimes straight away, and sometimes it can take a while to vary.

The fact that things turn out differently is good, as more often than not, our expectations tend to be lower rather than higher. Equally, if things always turned out how we expected it would make life dull, and given our tendency to be less positive as a default, we would probably not start anything.

That is how many of us can end up in life. We are conditioned to fear the worst, we are almost taught this nonsense that ‘if you fear the worst, then anything will be a bonus’.

So maybe, we can learn to start off expecting the best, even if it turns out worse than we expected, there will always be learning and therefore it was always worth starting something.

Different is good, and whatever way things turn out, it is always worth starting something.

The meaning of life, well my view anyway

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Philip Dodson blog

We often look to others for answers, or for them to do something for us, that we fear doing for ourselves.

The fact is, often instinctively, we deep down know the answers in life, as who else knows us better than us?

Why then, do we often wait a lifetime to do or try something new, or to change a thing that we know the answer too?

The reason we wait is, we are programmed to wait by our environment, very often from the moment we are born – the word ‘don’t’ gets engraved on our soul. Inside us is the limbic brain, the chimp brain, the one that is wired to avoid risk, to avoid being made to look foolish and to avoid danger.

However, now we live in a safe world relatively, yet this avoidance of danger continues. This is largely due to our environmental influences of parents, schools, bosses, governments and so on.

How do we break this?

We find out ‘why’ we do what we do, and if you can’t answer that, then you are probably doing the wrong thing.

We then learn the courage to change what we do until we find a meaningful and inspiring ‘why’.

We learn to become vulnerable and step into the ring, not worrying about what the critics say.

Finally, we realise that life is about creating.

So the meaning of life is, wait for it, drum role….make sure you tell others that you heard it here first…

To be constantly making our own new creations, whatever form that may take, and sharing them with an audience that you choose, whoever that may be. Otherwise it is a life of servitude to others for an ever more soulless reward of stuff we don’t need.

I’m off now to create and not serve.