Being brave enough to change

Change is a painful thing for most of us and certainly by time you reach 48 like me, as in really ancient, it can be more painful to do. Especially, as the habit you are trying to change may well have been with you for 48 years.

However, I have learnt over the last 3-4 years that any change is possible, it is a matter of having the ‘why’ power to make it happen. I have changed a great deal in my life over the last 3-4 years and none of which beforehand I would have thought possible.

Almost all that we do on a daily basis is habitual, so most things we say, do, feel, think are formed out of habit. Yet we are born with not a single habit.

That is the good news, that apart from a very few seriously engrained habits from before we were 7 years old, all the habits can be changed. I’m not going to get into the neurological part of it, as you probably will have guessed, I am not remotely qualified to comment.

The only prohibitive thing is not the physical, it is our own mental mindset to this. You need to have a reason to change, you need to be inspired to change and once you have that inspiration, then change is just a matter of discipline and time.

However, without inspiration, then no amount of willpower will make it happen, as willpower is short-lived motivation. Inspiration gives you a ‘why’ power which is long lasting and many times more powerful.

However, there is one final piece of the jigsaw…..bravery, without that you will find it hard. This is simply because making big changes means being prepared to be vulnerable. To take off the vulnerability shields takes a great deal of bravery.

The results though far outweigh the initial leap into the unknown.

Thinking differently

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Thinking differently and doing differently takes courage, it means taking off our vulnerability shields, it means stepping into the ring and facing our critics. It means being prepared to put our head up above the crowd and risk ridicule.

We are programmed by a fear based and shaming society to do what is expected, to not challenge and that has created an almost ubiquitously sterile population, who are mainly repressed and frustrated.

It is time to encourage people to be brave, to throw off those shields and show the real person, show their real talents, say what they really believe and to challenge what we are told.

The greatest humans have all had to step out of line and dare to be different, they have realised that they are already worthy, already good enough and have chosen to ignore the haters, ignore the critics and pursue what they really believe in.