Blockages

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No matter what we are trying to do in life, we often come up against blockages.

These blockages are not real physical things very often, perhaps a tree might fall and block the road, but normally the blocks live in our heads.

No one else puts them there either, we put them there. We may try to blame others and say it was them who made us think that. But ‘them’ are not to blame, no one is, we choose to put the blocks there.

Sometimes they are obvious blocks, for example if we have a bad leg, then it is probably a good idea to block the plan to go tree climbing. Or if we can’t swim, then in the short-term it probably might be good to block the idea of a round the world sailing trip. Longer term we can learn how to swim, if we really want to sail around the world badly enough.

The more difficult blocks are the ones that are well disguised by excuses that our chimp, instant gratification brain, comes up with to block anything that will interfere with short-term reward and gain. Blockages in the head are often fear related, fear of failure, fear of being laughed at, fear that we aren’t good or worthy enough to do something.

Blockages come in all forms, but the good news is, like a blocked pipe or drain, they can be flushed out and cleared.

The key is to identify what the real reason is for holding us up from trying, starting or doing something. It is nearly always the thing that we think we most want in life that we have the biggest blocks about.

Sometimes the block is we kid ourselves that we want to do a particular activity or want to behave in a certain way, when really deep down we don’t.

If we find out who we really are, how we really want to be and why we want to do something or not, then there is a good chance of finding what the blocks are.

Then it’s a step by step process of removing the block by changing habits and the ‘truths’ we tell ourselves.

We all have blocks, find them, and slowly start to remove them. But first, make sure that you really, as in really, really want to do that thing. Then the inspiration is there to overcome any blockages.

Demons

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Throughout life, we allow demons to live in our heads.

These are created by the ‘truths’ we tell ourselves about ourselves. Usually not based on much, other than our own fears, or a comments someone else made, that we let affect the view we have of ourselves.

Then habitually we tell ourselves these so-called truths. Then the resulting beliefs, and actions based on those beliefs, wrongly become reality.

How do we exorcise these demons?

Not by ignoring them, hoping that we can bury them and they will go away.

Often, when the demon has been caused by taking other people’s views of us as the ‘truth’, then there is a temptation to prove them wrong.

That again is not a recipe for successfully exorcising that demon either. This accepting that their judgement was right and then we behave according to that and not how we really are, it only serves to confirm that so-called truth. It makes us behave in a way that is not the real us.

In order to deal with any demon, you have to firstly want to make that change for you and not for others. You have to also work out why that demon is wrong and why you want to change it, what do you want the real truth to be. You have to say ‘that is not the truth about me and I don’t accept it’.

When you realise that you have allowed others to tell you, or you have simply accepted, that you are doing something wrong, or you are not worthy, or a particular judgement was right, then you will be able to challenge it.

Once you have your strong reason why you want to change and what to, then the rest is a question of step by step creating a new truth. That is all to do with the habits of how we talk to ourselves and what we will allow ourselves to accept from ourselves and others.

Build the truths about you that you want, not what others tell you.