Tag: talking

I don’t like that

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We often can talk about things that we do not like, criticise what is being done, moaning about the people in charge.

We are all a bit guilty of knocking stuff at times or simply saying we could do better. After watching a film or seeing a game of football. Well I could have done better.

The fact is, if we had to actually write a script for a film or act it, we’d probably struggle, or if we had to play 90 minutes of Premier League football, we might find it a little harder than we thought.

It is easy to criticise and it takes the brave to actually do. Doing is more demanding than talking or criticising.

However doing is the more rewarding to the soul. Doing regularly leads to doing better and better.

Instead of talking about what you don’t like, talk about what you are doing as an alternative.

That one voice

Posted on by philipdodson

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We create something, we refine it, we polish and then we share it with the world. We have that feeling of accomplishment and pleasure in having finished it and shipped it.

We have overcome our doubting voices and then we hit the ‘publish’ ‘send’ ‘tweet’ and we wait. Or we do a talk and the audience clap and then we wait for the feedback.

We get a like, a favourite, a re-tweet and we’re happy. We get a lovely DM to say ‘really loved your talk’ or ‘a great post’ in the comments.

Often though, what we are really waiting for is the negative feedback, there must have been someone who didn’t like it.

Then it comes, either a comment after our talk or a negative feedback, a critic.

Then we go off into a spiral of doubt and we say I knew ‘I shouldn’t have said that’ or ‘included that section’, and so the list goes on.

There may have been 25 likes and one ‘dislike’, but it is the one dislike that we focus on in our heads.

Two things I have learnt.

1. not everyone is going to like our stuff, and that’s great as we are not here to create bland stuff for the masses.

2. the one voice does not matter, as the critics are sitting on the sidelines, while you are in the ring taking the ‘punches’ and being brave enough to do it.