Tag: relationships

Going back to the same pain

Posted on by philipdodson

When we realise that relationships with others are toxic for us there is always a period where we keep going back for the same pain because of fear of the other person’s reaction.

We want to see the best in others especially friends and even more so family, which is good.

We do not want to admit to ourselves that time spent with them always leaves us feeling bad afterwards.

We perhaps blame ourselves or say ‘I need to be more patient’ or ‘I need to be more understanding’.

However, there comes a point, when we’ve set boundaries, explained to the other person how they make us feel, when patience and understanding will only lead to the pain continuing.

We have to let go and step away and respect ourselves. Simply by doing this it allows the pain the other person causes to subside, it often gives the other person time for reflection and hopefully change.

Ultimately we have to care for and respect ourselves.

Don’t keep going back for more pain for the sake of the other person. We do not need to accept toxic people.

I’m crap at business

Posted on by philipdodson

This is not a Gerald Ratner style admission, for those not old enough to remember or not from the UK, well worth a read – Gerald Ratner’s quote.

Business is typically seen as this ‘make as much money as you can’ type of thing and sometimes at whatever human cost. In fact, the whole principle of capitalism is to always be increasing profit and once you have taken all the quality and cost out of your product or service, all that is left to do is squeeze the most costly asset, us, the humans.

So more money made = better at business.

I prefer to do something that I enjoy with people who I love as customers and as great people to collaborate and share my day with. Sure, I could make more money, but then that would be at the cost of relationships and things that matter to me.

What if we decided to abandon the pursuit of money and instead embraced the pursuit of humanity and relationships? What impact could that have on our lives? Would we have a more meaningful and caring society? Would we simply enjoy life more?

Once money is brought into any equation it often corrupts and poisons our thoughts and behaviour. We modify, we compromise, we change. We have all had that thought, ‘what would I do if money didn’t matter?’. Well, we can all chose not to allow money to matter.

So as most see business, I’m crap at it, thankfully.