Stuck in an over-thinking bubble

I found myself in an over-thinking bubble today, a kind of vacuum, that I get sucked into, where there is this void. It seems almost unreal and detached from day-to-day life.

It’s empty, except what I fill it with. I fill it with lots of possible outcomes, I fill it with potential obstacles, then I pour in some good old excuses, reasons not to do, just for good measure. There is nothing like talking yourself out of something and building a wall of justification not to do. You can include others in this to just for further complication, thankfully I didn’t use ‘phone a friend’ today to get yet more views to throw into the mixer of despair.

These bubbles used to come more often, like a fucking jacuzzi at times.

Now at least I recognise I’ve got sucked into one, at least now I know it serves no purpose other than keep me from doing anything, like perfection, do nothing removes any room for judgement, failure, criticism, it’s safe.

It’s also frustrating, leads to being demoralised and of course later regret from all the things I wished I’d not talked myself out of.

Is there a solution?

Well, what worked for me today was to grab a pot of Sharpies and a giant piece of paper and instead of stirring all the shit around in my head, I focussed solely on what was in my mind and what I believed needed or I wanted to do.

Just getting it out of my head and on to paper, something visual, and just doing something about how I might manage the things that I did or didn’t want to do led to bursting the over-thinking bubble.

It gave me a chance to think what were the real priorities and how I could perhaps just tackle one of them.

Over-thinking is biggest obstacle between ideas and actions that lead to outcomes.

Think less Philip.

Learning reduces umming and ahhing

Umming and ahhing is something we all do, especially, interestingly, about things that are more important or take us from our comfort zone.

Some of you may have noticed that my domain for this blog has changed from philipdodson.wordpress.com to philipdodson.co.uk – a domain that I purchased about 3 years ago to make the very change I did only yesterday!! Still, 3 years of umming ahhing isn’t too bad, I’ve done longer.

Also, you may have noticed, along with the new domain, there is a new theme too and no more ads from WordPress, again something that I have been umming and ahhing about doing for about 3 years or so.

Note to self:- changing these two things was super easy and it took less than an hour in total to map the domain, upgrade the plan, change the DNS and choose and customise the new theme.

So why didn’t I do it before? Why three years of umming and ahhing?

Well, fear, yes FEAR, fear that it wouldn’t work, it would be too complicated, I’d make a mess of it and the site would be ruined.

It took me out of my comfort zone, I’d never done mapping a domain before. I had done a lot of reconfiguring WordPress sites etc, although, again after overcoming fear.

So what causes the fear? Lack of knowledge and the risk of looking like an idiot, yes I know, at 51 I should be used to that!

How did I overcome the fear? Learning.

Pure and simple, instead of going round and round the vicious circle of fear and umming and ahhing, I decided to simply press the button, read the instructions, read a few things from a Google search of ‘mapping sites for simpletons’ and hey presto it was easy.

Therefore, just pushing the button, like taking the plunge, saying ‘screw it, just do it’ (thanks, Richard Branson) and then learning. It saves years of umming and ahhing and frustration.

You can only learn if you try stuff and that’s it, just try.