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What might have been

Posted on by philipdodson

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Life is full of them, what might have been.

We have all sat and looked at choices we’ve made in life and thought what if I had chosen the other option, the other path, to say something different, to not leave that job or person.

We can often allow this to weigh us down with regret. It can then affect our future decision taking as we fear repeating bad choices.

Well, no one knows in advance that they are making a bad choice, otherwise, we’d be unlikely to do it. Additionally, there are no bad choices.

We focus on what might have been, as in something we don’t have. We could instead focus on what we do have. The grass is rarely greener, it is just a different shade and we can not have every outcome. The colour of the grass is how we choose to look at it and we can see it however we choose to.

So be positive about the choice you did make and if it turns out not to be the outcome you wanted, then choose a different path, learn and move forward. There is no gain in regretting choices as time machines have yet to be invented.

If we could go back, we would make the same choice as we wouldn’t know the outcome of that choice. We can only make choices on our experiences to that point in life and the current mindset that we had when we choose.

So perhaps it is better to say with a spring in our steps ‘look what has happened’ instead of what might have been. Even if it is a bad outcome, nothing is forever, change it and move on. It is all part of a magical journey and if we could make choices without risk and with total certainty, then life would be dull.

We think our own future

Posted on by philipdodson

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The thoughts that we have in our heads are what determines our beliefs, actions and the outcome of those actions.

If think good things about ourselves or are thinking positively about an action, then we believe good things, that then are more likely to result in good actions and good outcomes.

Of course, there are external factors that we do not control, but they are always there and we can’t change what others may or may not do.

The reality is, we decide what future we will have, by the thoughts that we have. We are taught to fear and worry, think of the worst outcome by default.

What if you reversed that and unlearnt? What if we learnt the habit of thinking about the best outcome first? What if we choose to believe that we can create that best outcome? Think about it, we can think whatever we want, yet we choose to think bad things first?

It is all habit, and habits can be changed by doing the different behaviour regularly enough for the new habit to form.

So what future are you currently thinking up for you? How could you change that thinking to create the future you really want? Just start now, by changing your thinking and beliefs. Think good first, bad might happen, but until it does, no point in thinking about it. Normally, for almost any situation, we deal with bad when it comes up anyway.

Think up whatever future you want.