Tag: motivation

I don’t know how to

Posted on by philipdodson

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Often when faced with a change or a new task, especially one that is likely to take us out of our comfort zone, we use the reason for not starting as ‘I don’t know how to do….’.

So we become stuck and then we search around for other reasons too not to do.

Yet we live in a time where the clever people at Google have indexed almost all the world’s knowledge, courses, coaches, advisors etc into a very simple and easy to use search engine. We can simply type ‘how to…..’ and up will come enough results to keep us occupied for a very long time.

In addition, the kind people at Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and many other networks have made it as easy as typing these words to connect with almost anyone who could help us anywhere in the world.

So we can easily access people to help us, we can access billions and billions of websites, articles, pieces of information and so on. We can even ask real people around us to help.

Yet we still say ‘I don’t know how to do…..’.

Perhaps there is something else holding us back? Perhaps we are frightened to learn as that might mean doing something and becoming successful.

‘I don’t know how to…’ is just an excuse.

Observing

Posted on by philipdodson

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Someone has been trying to convince me about Tony Robbins.

I’ve never really looked at any of his stuff, yet I have been put off finding out more because I see him as a motivator rather than someone who inspires.

So when the guru isn’t there, when you are not plugged into the ‘electricity’ and the source of motivation has gone, you are left with nothing.

Whereas when something touches our heart and truly inspires us as it reaches our values, we can continue to inspire ourselves as it much deeper and more meaningful than a lot of shouting, loud music and ‘fuck yeah, 110%’.

So curious to find out more, I started to watch the Netflix documentary about him and I stopped observing and started to judge.

However, herein lies the dilemma for me and most of us, and this quote by Jiddu Krishnamurti sums it up perfectly “The ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence”.

It’s all learned behaviour of judging people before or during observing them.

Observe without judgement, reflect and still don’t judge. Evaluate for yourself with an open mind. This way you unlock a very different world that previously you couldn’t see.

I still may choose to see Tony Robbins the same way but at least I can do it without judgement. It’s a question of unlearning and changing habits.