Tag: money

Spend on people not things

Posted on by philipdodson

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We all need money in life and there is nothing wrong with money. There is nothing wrong in people or businesses making money.

It is what we then choose to do with that money that matters.

If we choose to accumulate money purely to buy a lifestyle and spend it on material things, hoping that will bring happiness, then it might be a very long wait for happiness to turn up.

However, another option is to accumulate money and spend it doing activities with others, with friends, with loved ones. This is where the joy of life comes from because this is where we create memories, legacies, this is how we leave memories in the heads of others to enjoy after we have ended our journies.

No one remembers paying the bills or how many iPhone upgrades we had. The size of our house, car, bank balances or the labels on the clothes we wear will matter not at the end of our lives.

The places we visited, the activities we enjoyed, the people we met, the people we loved, the people we helped and the ‘art’ we created and shared will be what matters.

Spend with people, create abundance to help others not to buy things.

Having your cake and eating it

Posted on by philipdodson

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Rather than getting off the fence, we all too often want our ‘cake and eat it’.

Simply put we want the best of both worlds, we don’t want to feel like we’re missing out on something. So we try hard to achieve too many things all at once, hoping that we can have everything all at the same time.

The thing is, you can have your ‘cake and eat it’ if you focus on what you already have. Most of us already have all that we need in life, yet we expend a huge amount of energy on trying to get things we don’t have or actually don’t need.

What we need, is not more money or possessions, it’s belonging, love, kindness, to feel worthy, people, friends, family and memories of activities we did with the people who matter.

If you realise you will always have the ‘cake’ every day, it’s there because you are choosing happiness and contentment with what you have.

Then you can ‘eat’ and the next day it will be replenished by your mindset, there will be another ‘cake’. We can create all the ‘cakes’ we need. We just need to accept that, be content and enjoy what we have.

Discontent is the tool of the industrialised system to lead us to constantly want more, it is how we feel we are able to reach contentment and happiness. Keep getting more and more. It’s a myth.

Happiness and acceptance of what we have are the perfect antidotes to discontent and feeling inadequate.

We only want the best of both worlds when we are striving for things we don’t have and actually don’t need.

Accept what you have and be happy.