Tag: hard

If you want easy

Posted on by philipdodson

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If you want an easy ride, then don’t expect too much out of life.

Anything of any value in life relies on commitment.

You have to show up.

We’ll have plenty of time to ease up at the end of our journeys.

So apply for that job, sing that song, fall in love, start that new business, travel to that place, spend time on what matters, and most of all enjoy the ride.

Easy things turn to hard as regret wears us down.

Conversely, hard things, the things we really want to do stopped by fear and an attraction to easy things to avoid showing up, become easier and easier to do once you start.

Deep down no one wants easy, we all want something worthwhile.

A comfort in holding on

Posted on by philipdodson

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Liberating ourselves from past behaviours is sometimes sabotaged.

We may think that we have decided to change and form new habits.

Sometimes we explain to ourselves that lapses in behaviour are to do with it taking a long time to change a habit. This is certainly true of habits that we have had for a lifetime that we are trying to alter.

However, sometimes there is a subconscious comfort in remaining as we were, particularly if the habit is related to a person or perhaps our childhood.

Once you realise what triggers a particularly habitual behaviour that you are trying to change, get really curious to see if this behaviour has a comfort zone from the past.

Comfort zones are nearly always uncomfortable and safety is riskier than change. Staying stuck with a habit is in the long-term more painful than the change.

As I blogged only recently, hard things end up being easy longer-term and easy is always painful, like holding on for ‘comfort’.