Author: philipdodson

Hi I’m Philip Dodson entrepreneur co-founder of @Work Hubs and founder of Dodson Commercial I am passionate about revolutionising how & where we work, enabling individuals and business to connect, network and grow. Self-employment within the next 7-10 years will become the norm in the developed world, alongside this will be a co-working revolution. The future is all about sharing, collaborating and helping others to succeed. Find out more – @WorkHubs

I don’t know how to

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Often when faced with a change or a new task, especially one that is likely to take us out of our comfort zone, we use the reason for not starting as ‘I don’t know how to do….’.

So we become stuck and then we search around for other reasons too not to do.

Yet we live in a time where the clever people at Google have indexed almost all the world’s knowledge, courses, coaches, advisors etc into a very simple and easy to use search engine. We can simply type ‘how to…..’ and up will come enough results to keep us occupied for a very long time.

In addition, the kind people at Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and many other networks have made it as easy as typing these words to connect with almost anyone who could help us anywhere in the world.

So we can easily access people to help us, we can access billions and billions of websites, articles, pieces of information and so on. We can even ask real people around us to help.

Yet we still say ‘I don’t know how to do…..’.

Perhaps there is something else holding us back? Perhaps we are frightened to learn as that might mean doing something and becoming successful.

‘I don’t know how to…’ is just an excuse.

Who you kidding?

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We tell the world and ourselves sometimes that we are a particular thing or we are doing a particular activity. A common one is when exercising or dieting, we tell ourselves we ate carefully or walked x miles, when sometimes we didn’t. Short-term it makes us feel better inside.

We might say ‘I am writing a book’ to convince ourselves we are an author, yet we have not even written a single word, having the intention to do something, or adding it to an action list, does not mean that we have done it.

Yet the more we indulge in this habit of talking and not doing, the more we convince ourselves that we are actually an author, or a coach or a whatever we intend to be. Saying it does not make it so.

Surely it is better to try to do that thing, do the hard work, commit and even it fails, at least we had a go, learnt, and did it better the next time than it is to carry on kidding ourselves?

After all, we are expending that time and energy on kidding ourselves, much better to stop the drifting, the pretence, and just do it.

The chemical reward we get from doing makes us happier, healthier and leads to a longer life. The stress, fear, regret and often anger and frustration of not being or doing something makes us unhappy, unhealthy and leads to a shorter life.

It is only ourselves we are cheating as no one else really cares, they are too busy with their own lives and challenges.