Gloomy times

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We all have gloomy times in life, times when things seem against us or dark clouds are parked over our heads.

At the time, it can seem like there is no coming back or no way out or things will remain this way forever.

The fact is all things pass with time and what seems bad now, will feel better even in a few hours and certainly by the next day. However, it is all a question of choice.

Often we choose to wallow in the bad, we use it to seek attention and to help justify that we are a victim.

The world isn’t stacked against us or anyone else, no one is out to get us and we are no more or less worthy than anyone else.

We have the option to choose to let things go, to realise that there is a reason for things and to try and teach ourselves not to see things as bad or not to see them as others against us.

Accepting things and moving on speeds up the process and if others are doing things that have a negative impact on our feelings, then like anything that is toxic, the best thing to do is to remove that from our lives and not look back.

A great friend of mine always says to me ‘step away from the package’.

What do you value?

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What do you value in your life? What really matters?

Stop your busy life for a moment and write down who, what, the things or activities that matter.

Look at that list of people and activities you do value, and then think how much time do I really spend on them?

Sometimes we say ‘I’d love to do more x, I’d love to spend more time with y, but I don’t have time’.

Apparently, we spend on average 4 hours a day watching TV (Netflix, YouTube or whatever form of media, doesn’t have to be old school TV).

Well, if we simply cut that by 50%, that would give us 2 hours a day, 14 hours a week, over 2 full 24 hour days a month, 25 days a year, a whole year back every 14 years and over an average life 5-6 years of time to spend.

There is always time, it is a question of how much we really value the activities, the people we love or the things that matter in life.

If you value them, make time. Otherwise, perhaps you need to reassess what does really matter in your life.