Helping others become even better versions of themselves
Just saying what we fear to say, like jumping off the high diving board, once you’ve said it, and realise that the reaction is often a million times better than we’d imagined for hours, days, weeks, months or even years that we have been thinking about, you then want to do it more.
It’s amazingly liberating to become brave, but amazingly hard to get to that point.
As the saying goes ‘just do it’ as fear is actually our guide and compass. We never fear things that do not matter.
When we realise that relationships with others are toxic for us there is always a period where we keep going back for the same pain because of fear of the other person’s reaction.
We want to see the best in others especially friends and even more so family, which is good.
We do not want to admit to ourselves that time spent with them always leaves us feeling bad afterwards.
We perhaps blame ourselves or say ‘I need to be more patient’ or ‘I need to be more understanding’.
However, there comes a point, when we’ve set boundaries, explained to the other person how they make us feel, when patience and understanding will only lead to the pain continuing.
We have to let go and step away and respect ourselves. Simply by doing this it allows the pain the other person causes to subside, it often gives the other person time for reflection and hopefully change.
Ultimately we have to care for and respect ourselves.
Don’t keep going back for more pain for the sake of the other person. We do not need to accept toxic people.
