When to stop?

It’s a question we ask many times. When to stop a job, a relationship, a business, a piece of art, whatever we may be doing.

We all get to a point where we might want to add more, take something away, or it might not be working.

We are constantly bombarded with this macho ‘don’t quit’ mentality and just keep going.

There isn’t a magic formula on when to stop, but it is a personal choice and we don’t need others permission and we can choose what feels good and right for us. We do not have to keep doing something to prove a point to ourselves and especially not others.

Stop when you want not when we are told to.

Not living the life I want…

Is something I’ve said to myself many times and I am sure many others have.

However, if we stopped to analyse now and stopped thinking about this future life that never actually arrives, we’d realise that we are living a far better life than we thought.

I did this very thing this morning while chatting with my mate on our weekly catch-up/accountability call. We both had to admit that life now was pretty damn good. If we allowed ourselves to look at what we actually have, instead of beating ourselves up about all the things we don’t have, that would somehow magically make our lives more like the one we’re always imagining and hoping will get one day in the future, then we’d live a much more relaxed and contented life.

We have to unlearn our conditioning of always striving for more things we don’t currently have and we have to relearn gratitude and sufficiency. Most people thankfully are in a privileged situation of abundance, and that, of course, is all relative but compared to the plight of many just 100 years ago, we live in abundant times.

The best day of our lives is today and always will be because life happens in the now moment. That does not stop use changing things to build a different future, but what we have right now is it. Be grateful for it and anything else that comes our way is a bonus. Life can be one of contentment and joy or one of dissatisfaction about things we don’t have.