Stuck in an over-thinking bubble

I found myself in an over-thinking bubble today, a kind of vacuum, that I get sucked into, where there is this void. It seems almost unreal and detached from day-to-day life.

It’s empty, except what I fill it with. I fill it with lots of possible outcomes, I fill it with potential obstacles, then I pour in some good old excuses, reasons not to do, just for good measure. There is nothing like talking yourself out of something and building a wall of justification not to do. You can include others in this to just for further complication, thankfully I didn’t use ‘phone a friend’ today to get yet more views to throw into the mixer of despair.

These bubbles used to come more often, like a fucking jacuzzi at times.

Now at least I recognise I’ve got sucked into one, at least now I know it serves no purpose other than keep me from doing anything, like perfection, do nothing removes any room for judgement, failure, criticism, it’s safe.

It’s also frustrating, leads to being demoralised and of course later regret from all the things I wished I’d not talked myself out of.

Is there a solution?

Well, what worked for me today was to grab a pot of Sharpies and a giant piece of paper and instead of stirring all the shit around in my head, I focussed solely on what was in my mind and what I believed needed or I wanted to do.

Just getting it out of my head and on to paper, something visual, and just doing something about how I might manage the things that I did or didn’t want to do led to bursting the over-thinking bubble.

It gave me a chance to think what were the real priorities and how I could perhaps just tackle one of them.

Over-thinking is biggest obstacle between ideas and actions that lead to outcomes.

Think less Philip.

Bastard, you stole my idea

Several times in life I have said ‘bastard, you stole my idea’, OK I’m lying…I used MUCH worse words than ‘bastard’.

Now, I have realised that not many ideas are unique anymore, in fact, it is almost impossible to have an idea that someone else has not.

Ideas are cheaper than ever. When I was born there were about 3.5 billion people, and wow did they have a shit load of ideas every single day, now there is 7 billion plus, it is off the fucking charts. Ideas come along all the time.

Ideas mainly end up in the graveyard with the person who didn’t act upon them. Now, we can not act on all our ideas, that would be exhausting.

However, before the auto-sabotaging machine kicks in, that is inside all of our heads stopping us from doing pretty much everything other than easy instantly gratifying things, we could choose to do some of the ideas that really resonate with us. Even just one or two would be a step forward and I am not talking about ‘I’ve got an idea, I can rearrange all my self-help books in alphabetical order’. Wow, great idea Philip, that will save me time in finding yet another book to read.’I’…great book there ‘Ideas, how to have more’ written by A.Smartarse.

What happened to me, until I realised it was my fault, is I would talk endlessly about doing something, I would over-think, almost eventually convincing myself that I was actually making my idea happen and doing something about it, really just hot air expulsion. Then when someone, who was no smarter or creative than me, actually built the thing I was fucking thinking about, I would go into a ‘shit storm’ meltdown and become a victim.

After many occurrences of this familiar pattern, the scarring led me to actually learn. Ideas don’t matter, just getting on with them is what counts.

The other thing is because something has caused you to be frightened of something, it will not go away by not doing it out of fear. It will only go away by overcoming that fear and doing it.

A few people have taken things that I talked to them about and were my ideas and have gone and done them without me. Are they shitbags? No. I just need to realise that my ideas may not be unique, but I am, and how I execute and make those ideas a reality and evolve them to become even better is what counts.

Setting better boundaries counts too, but at the end of the day getting on and taking the small steps each day to turn your idea into something and then making even better each day is a real safety feature to avoid others doing your thing.

So Philip, stop thinking, get on.